Raising a Confident Child - What Every Parent Should Know
A child is born. "Is this world good or bad?" he asks. "Is it safe or isn`t it?" "Am I good, worthy and competent or am I not?" He waits to see if his innate hopes will be fulfilled. Just as a baby bird has expectations from its parents when it is born, so does a human-child. His first natural expectation is that he will be held close to his mother. This tells him that the world is safe and that he is strongly connected to his first spiritual source and to the rest of his species.
The child grows. He waits to receive further signals that tell him what kind of place the world is, what kind of people are in it, and if he is good, worthy and competent. His mother, his father and his other leaders send strong messages that the world is loving, its people are friendly and he is capable.
The child grows. He is commended for his efforts, he is made to feel proud and able, he is hugged and held and he is seen for the individual that he is, not for whom they wish he would have been. The energy he feels from his mother and father is safe. It is strong. He knows this is natural and he is content in his world. He grows as straight as an arrow.
A child is born. "Is this world good or bad?" he asks. "Is it safe or is it not?" "Am I good, worthy and competent or am I not?" He waits to see if his innate hopes will be fulfilled. His mother hardly touches him, hardly holds him. He spends much of his time in his baby seat, in his baby swing, in his baby bed. He knows this is not natural, but will his parents hear what he is saying? His connection to his first spiritual source and to the rest of his species is broken, never to be fully repaired.
The child grows. He waits to receive further signals that tell him what kind of place the world is, what kind of people are in it, and if he is good, worthy and competent. His mother, his father and his other leaders send strong messages that the world is unloving, its people are unfriendly and he is bad, unworthy and incapable.
Their energy, sent through the harsh words they speak to him, the body energy they generate, the lack of human touch he receives, the impatient way they look at him, tells him that the world is not safe, it is not friendly, and he is incapable. They don`t mean to, but his mother and his father send anxious energy to their child. They are angry, they often snap and they do not realize that they can break his spirit as easily as they can break a twig.
They have been misguided from their own naturally peaceful and content journey in life. He knows this is not natural and he is discontent in his world. He grows as crooked as the bent willow. While they were never intended to be, our children are sometimes our best teachers. They will guide us to where we need to go if we have lost our way. They heed us by reflecting the anxious energy that they receive. They just hope that we can hear them.
Copyright 2009. Ann-Michele Timmerman & AMT Productions
Ann-Michele Timmerman is the founder of http://www.parentingthroughenergy.com - a company dedicated to teaching parents new ways of looking at parenting and helping them solve their parenting challenges. For your FREE Special Report, "5 Big Parenting Myths Revealed! (and what believing them could be costing you and your children)," please visit her website at http://www.parentingthroughenergy.com.
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